What About Your Friends?
Sunday, October 26th, 2008
by Tony
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Maybe I’m being a little over-sensitive but the following exchange struck a nerve with me. I was chilling watching the video for Beyoncé new single ‘Single Ladies (Put A Ring On It)’ and a friend of mines had IM’ed me on Yahoo!:
HIM: put a ring on it huh
HIM: they converted ya…lol
ME: and who would be they?
HIM: sissies
HIM: da Beyonce crew
HIM:
ME: hmmmm
HIM: what u doing
ME: watching tv and trying to clean
ME: got clothes everywhere
HIM: ahh yes da sunday ritual
ME: I guess
ME: but other than that just been chilling
HIM: kool
ME: how about u
HIM: i’m doing kool
HIM: had fun yesterday
ME: thats nice
HIM: yeah
ME: hold on
ME: brb
HIM: k
ME: ok back
HIM: kewl
ME: sissies?
HIM: das what i call da beyonce crew
ME: and who are they
HIM: da gay boys who lover her music that they would become her if they could
ME: oh
ME: okay
ME: dont know anybody like that
HIM: a couple in yo frat r like that but das another story
HIM: lol
ME: bye
Overall I was just pretty offended but the last line just set me off. I hold my letters and my brothers in high regard. I know that my people are not perfect. I firmly believe that my fraternity and especially my chapter works well is because we are all different types of men, who have come together to work and fellowship who genuinely like and respect each other. So why some may be somewhat effeminate in their mannerisms, they are also the strongest and bravest MEN I have ever met. So to hear that just flipped a switch in my head and I it came to me.
Recently I’ve been catching more and more of what my friend has said to me; like telling me he spends more time talking to my BF than I do, and how he hangs out with my BF. I believe that if it was anybody else, I would have put their head through a wall but I paid it no mind because is a mutual friend of me and the BF. And I’m not saying that I’m jealous or even suspicious of who my guy is friends with but after several times where I’ve made plans with the BF and only to be stood up so he can hang out with the friend, I’m just not comfortable with the entire situation. Time to re-evaluate the situation…
4 Comments
Darius T. Williams
October 27th, 2008
at 3:06pm
Wow…um, yea – it’s totally time to reevaluate that situation.
Anonymous
October 28th, 2008
at 3:09pm
Ok well it seems like when it comes to re-evaluating you need to look at the situation. It seems like your friend was joking with you when he said what he said. But more effectively perhaps he said that for a more broader reason that to have you evaluate the friendship between you two. Perhaps it was meant to be a joke or to point out that the company you keep does not compliment you and it is YOU that seems like the odd man out of the bunch. Perhaps it was meant for you to re-evaluate your associations. As for you BF not spending time with you but spending time with him perhaps it could possibly be related perhaps it’s the company that you keep and the person that it makes you out to be that could be prohibiting them from spending time with/around you because they don’t like who you become or are. Just my 2 cents
Tony
October 28th, 2008
at 3:39pm
Everything you said may be be true, but if my friend or my BF has a problem with my friends or my frat brothers, then I would pray that they would be man enough to bring to me. And would it matter if I seem like the odd man out if I’m with my friends? I enjoy spending time with those people and I know that in any situation they will have my back. And people really can’t have a problem with the relationships that have been establish prior to my relationship with my BF and before I was friends with the person above if they do then it’s their problem and not mine. I wouldn’t expect a friend to change or even my BF to stop associating with someone unless I knew for a fact they were a severely negative influence. But I thank you Anonymous for your 2 Cents.
Keisha Kornbread
February 20th, 2009
at 12:17am
I’m kind of lost on this one….
I’m not getting the full story.